Christmas is said to be one of the most popularly celebrated day in the world. It is obvious that the remembrance of the birth of Jesus Christ leaves excitement in the air. For the young ones, it is a time to change clothes and get beautiful, the streets are illuminated by colourful lights; gifts exchange hands, loud noise in the streets, dancing and songs become the order of the day.
And for the youths it is a time to get married, people travel to their respective states of origin to celebrate with their loved ones; it is often a time for family re-union, a time to re-strategize and focus, it is a time to seek the face of God and make New Year resolutions.
The period incorporates various Christian and secular customs. Christmas Day, usually celebrated on the 25th day of December is a busy epoch, heralded with shopping and preparations for spirituality and a lot of funs.
The celebration wouldn’t be complete without the beautiful Christmas trees that are constructed in most sitting rooms and houses the tree is an integral part of charismas in Nigeria, often rounded by shiny tiny lights that also runs around the sitting room. It reminds us of the festival and helps us keep abreast of the season.
It use to be fun all the way, where most people, especially the Igbos living in different parts of the country and the world return home to share love and joy with their immediate and extended family members. As it were, during this period, people exchange gift items with their family members, loved ones and co-workers, as well as the needy.
In the same way, some communities use the period to settle differences in their respective families, perform both the traditional marriages and wedding ceremonies to enable every member of the family to attend. Due to some public holidays that follow the season, most people use this season to exchange visits to families, friends and well wishers, loved ones and colleagues.
However, some people deviate from the actual merriment associated with the season to dupe innocent commuters eager to return home to see their family members. Transporters normally increase transport fares during this season while a slew of rituals take place by those who are eager to get rich by all means.
On the other hand, some people, especially youths make silly mistakes of their lives during the Christmas season; some get themselves impregnated. Some young guys and ladies use the period to look for their would-be-wives or husbands; some use it to find new lovers whereas others use the yuletide to re-unite with their families and old friends who may be running away from performing their responsibilities.
Some people are of the view that Christmas season is known to be a period of great expenses because most friends and families expect a lot from each other especially in terms of financial performance.
Because of this, most men decide to opt-out of their relationship because of the expenses they might incur in other to satisfy their girlfriends during this period.
The fact that most men shun their girlfriends during Christmas season cannot be over emphasized but all of them have different reasons for doing such thing.
A civil servant, Mr. Abraham Chukwuemeka said that he used to run away from his girlfriend some weeks before Christmas because she demands too much without even considering his pocket. “I usually avoid my girlfriend few weeks before Christmas because she asks too much and she does try to compare me with her friend’s boyfriend not thinking about how much I earn per month, you know that you can never satisfy a woman; so it is better not to spend a penny.”
According to Mr. Gabriel Emmanuel, a building contractor, “I have never done such a thing before but I have a friend who loves breaking up with his girlfriend during festive periods, especially Christmas because he doubles date a lot. So he does not have enough money to cater for all of them”, he noted.
However, Mr Elijah Ademola, who has a different opinion said that the reason why some guys run away from their girlfriends during Christmas period is because they don’t have courage. “The reason why men dump their girlfriends during yuletide is because they lack courage, without money, a courageous man can continue with his relationship without being intimidated by his financial condition, it’s just a matter of being straight forward and truthful; you can tell your girlfriend that you don’t have enough money and you can as well urge her to manage the money you can afford”.
For a corps member, Usman Dukia, “The reason why boys run away from their girlfriends during Christmas or Sallah is that during that time most girls ask their boyfriends for some money to buy things for Christmas or Sallah.”
Zakar Harilu, a recharge card dealer said that he is not doing that kind thing and that is why his relationship with his girlfriend continued to flourish. “For me what I think is the reason is that some girls are calculative, when Christmas is coming, they calculate the amount they will use for their dress and other fashions. Though I am a Muslim but Christmas is for all and I am dating a girl like that for about four years now, so if I am that type, the relationship will not have reached this stage”.
On his part Mr. Joseph opined that there is no reason for him to run away from his girlfriend no matter what happens during the period. He also maintained that the main reason behind guys fleeing from their lovers is that some boys do not really love their girls, so they use the Christmas demands to show them the way out.
In a chat with a music producer, Miss Adewopo, he said real men don’t dump their women because of Christmas expenses. “You can give what you can give and nobody will force you to give what you don’t have. As a man, before asking a woman out, you should know that you have some responsibility as her partner.
“You shouldn’t just walk up to a woman and ask her out if you know you cannot withstand your responsibility properly, as a man looking for a girlfriend, you should look for your level first then study the girl as well and try to figure out if she’s a type that ask too much, if you can meet up with her demands, you stay, if you can’t then you should look for another girlfriend,” he said.
Mr. Elijah Ademola, a reporter said that the reason why men dump their girlfriends during yuletide is that they lack courage. He further added that, without money a courageous man can continue with his relationship without being intimidated by his financial condition, it’s just a matter of being straight forward and truthful, you can tell your girlfriend that you don’t have enough money and you can as well urge her to manage the money you can afford. He said.
In a meeting with Mr. Amos Sunday, he said one of the reasons is that women don’t make effort to assist guys during festive period, they are not concerned about where they are going to get the money from, all they want is to be treated nicely during yuletide session.
“Though the habit of breaking up relationships by men during Christmas seasons is uncalled for, but you can’t totally blame the men doing such thing. Women are supposed to take part virtually in everything that happens during relationships, the entire burden shouldn’t be on the men. As a real woman, you shouldn’t depend on a man to help you carry your entire problems,” he emphasized.
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